Chores are a necessary part of life and need to be done whether we like them or not.
Can I get an Amen on that one!
Just the other day I was talking to my kids about our visit to Craigdarroch Castle in Victoria B.C. a few years back. I mentioned how hard the servant girl had to work. She lived in a tiny room at the top of the house. Her day started at 4:00 am and didn’t end until 9:00 pm. She worked hard and only got one day off a week!
To get a picture of how many chores it would take to run such a house we compared the number of chores we do at our house to keep it going and then multiplied it by 10. That’s about how many chores it would take to run a house that big. Probably more because they didn’t have dishwashers, washing machines, dryers, and the heating was from the many fireplaces throughout the house!
Can you imagine living in such a place? Especially if you were the servant girl. Yikes!
Chores are a necessary part of life and must be done regardless of how we or our children feel about them. Your kids need to do chores. Here’s why. . .
3 Reasons Your Kids Need to do Chores
Reason #1: You Shouldn’t do it All!
Not only is it almost impossible to keep up while also balancing your homeschool and other responsibilities it’s not healthy for your child!
Doing it all for your child places huge insecurities in their hearts. It makes them feel they are incapable and they begin to lack confidence.
I know parents who do it all for their kids because they want to teach servanthood. Doing it all for your children simply teaches them that you’re there to wait on them hand and foot and they begin to expect it and to treat you with disrespect.
Reason #2: It builds Confidence in Your Child.
One of a child’s greatest needs is to feel like they belong to something bigger than themselves and to feel like they are a significant part of that group.
What does that mean?
Your child needs to contribute to the group in meaningful and useful ways in order to build confidence. As they contribute through chores they feel like they are an important part of the family group. They won’t love to do chores and they may even complain but in the end, it is good for their overall emotional well-being.
If everything is done for them it feeds insecurity. They feel like they are not a valuable part of the family group which also leads to a sense of entitlement. You don’t want this.
Reason #3: It grows Responsible Adults
Having your kids do chores grows them into responsible adults. That’s the goal, right?
Who wants to raise kids that are eternally dependent on you to do their laundry?
We all want to raise kids who are responsible, independent individuals who will not only survive but thrive. Contributing to the family in simple ways helps children realize that it takes work to run a home and they’re a valuable part of making that home run. It teaches them work ethic, appreciation, and responsibility. Who doesn’t want that for their child?
I have two tips for you to get started with building responsibility into your children today.
Start your kids young. This makes the training so much easier. Little children love to help out and feel like a “big helper”. It becomes so normal to them that you will have a lot less resistance down the road.
That doesn’t mean you can’t start with your older kids. It just means it’s going to take more work and determination on your part.
Do not pay them to do chores. If you want to teach your child financial management great, give them an allowance if you must but don’t connect that money to the chores they do around the home. This teaches them all kinds of work ethic issues we don’t want to deal with.
Do you get paid when you get home from work to take out the trash, do the dishes or mop the floor? No. These are things that we need to do to keep the home running smoothly. You don’t want to train your kids to only help out if there’s a payback.
Get started today! Build responsibility, confidence and a sense of belonging into your children. They will thank you later even if they don’t appreciate it now.
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